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August 26th, 2017 by Cherry

LOVING | Fangirl Critic Pick | Directed by Jeff Nichols Biography | Drama | PG-13 | 2h 3m

By Cherry Davis NOV. 3, 2016

Anti-miscegenation laws or miscegenation laws were laws that enforced racial segregation at the level of marriage and intimate relationships by criminalizing interracial marriage and sometimes also sex between members of different races.

 

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Just think what that means and how a couple in Virginia changed the course of marriage for people of all races and sexual orientation.

 

I was familiar with the Loving story but seeing their story in this political landscape reminded me how far we’ve come but how much further we have to go for true equality for all people (race, sexual orientation, citizenship). My heart was in my throat from the opening scene. Jeff Nichol’s caressed this story with the eyes of love and it speaks to the division of America’s past and current division of race. Loving takes us back to a time with anti-miscegenation laws were on the books in many states so when Mildred and Richard crossed state lines to marry in Washington, DC it started a domino affect that is still cited in court cases today. A white man and woman of color (Black and Native American) could not legally marry in Virginia. Virginia passed the first law in 1691 to prevent interracial couples from having children.

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Loving takes place in the late 1950s with Mildred (Ruth Negga) and Richard (Joel Edgerton) a young couple in love living in a small area outside of town (where the blacks, Native Americans and poor whites) lived in an easy peace. Mildred and Richard have a chemistry and deep friendship that was noticed not just by white but black people and not everyone approved but most didn’t say anything as long as they seemed to be ‘spending time’ with one another.

 

img_0245 I noticed the looks from a few white men at the race and a black woman at the fabric store. But they were protected by their love and affection but eventually the read world intruded in their fairy tale.

Mr. Nichols (‘Take Shelter’, ‘Mud’) has a light touch with the film that follows the couple as if you’re an angel looking over their shoulders. It’s a film of small sights and long lingering looks (not always of passion) where love runs up against a brick wall and refuses to stop. Some people may not know the history of our country but in the 1950s Jim Crow was the law of many states as in the signs that say ‘Separate but Equal’ and it was a time when America was in a huge upheaval with the beginning steps of the Civil Rights movement.

 

The Loving’s first come to the attention of the local police after they return from Washington, DC and happily display the marriage license. They fell asleep in each other arms and woke to Sheriff R. Garnett Brooks (Marton Csokas) and his deputies with flashlights and angry voices. It was the first inkling of how they had crossed the ‘invisible’ line that they were never to have crossed. Mildred and Richard were arrested and jailed for not following the law against interracial marriage in Virginia. From that moment your heart will be beating so fast for them fear of the legal ramifications, the unspoken threat of being lynched and if their love would survive the many obstacles in their path.

 

Looking at this couple and how Mildred finally had said ‘enough’ she wanted her life with her beloved husband, children and extended family back and the lengths/sacrifices is simply fascinating. Watching their story unfold from Richard’s deep connection with black people and easy kinship to Mildred’s close relationship with her family the film takes the photo from ‘Life’ magazine and give them life. The team behind the movie from set, location, cast, makeup, hair, cinematography and direction made this feel like we had stepped back in time. It’s incredibly moving to tell the story of two people fighting the state of VA with the assistance of the ACLU, a green lawyer wanting to fight the law, the Georgetown Professor who introduces him to his more experience co-counsel and all the moving parts to find the right case to strike down these laws is simply fascinating.

 

The story of the Lovings have been told in numerous books and movies over the decades but Mr. Nichol’s found ‘The Loving Story’ (2011) documentary directed by Nancy Buirski with archival film footage to be an inspiration of the family. Seeing them as people and how they interacted with one another enabled him to write/direct a film that truly reflects this couple. A woman who may have been shy but had a will of iron when it came to her family and a strong solid husband who always took care of his wife and put his family first even over the objections from kin and the law.  

 

This film is like a river that follows it’s own path no matter how long it may take to carve out the land. I strongly recommend this film for the quiet moments, the sighs and yes the love that fought to be heard all the way to the Supreme Court.

 

Loving celebrates the real-life courage and commitment of an interracial couple, Richard and Mildred Loving (portrayed in the film by Joel Edgerton and Ruth Negga), who fell in love and were married in 1958 from acclaimed writer/director Jeff Nichols (Take Shelter, Mud, Midnight Special).

 

The couple had grown up in Central Point, a small town in Virginia that was more integrated than surrounding areas in the American South. Yet it was the state of Virginia, where they were making their home and starting a family, that first jailed and then banished them. Richard and Mildred relocated with their children to the inner city of Washington, D.C. While relatives made them feel welcome there, the more urban environment did not feel like home to them. Ultimately, the pull of their roots in Virginia would spur Mildred to try to find a way back.Their civil rights case, Loving v. Virginia, went all the way to the Supreme Court, which in 1967 reaffirmed the very foundation of the right to marry. Richard and Mildred returned home and their love story has become an inspiration to couples ever since.

 

Posted in Film, Interracial Dating, Los Angeles, Politics, Race in America

May 11th, 2014 by Cherry

The first moment I saw this poster out of the corner of my eye I was intrigued.  A black woman dressed in such formal and expensive clothing for that time of history I’ve never seen such a movie poster!  I didn’t know much about the movie but I said to myself I’m going to see this movie so I went home and looked up the movie.  You can’t imagine my excitement to learn this little known (to me) story of how England started to emancipate slavery.   How a man falling in love and having a relationship with a black woman would come to influence the course of British History and slavery.   I saw the film and was beyond impressed with the story, cast and direction.  I uploaded a review of the film on my youtube channel CherryLosAngeles  new period drama Belle.   As well as the Q&A with two cast members at the Arclight in Hollywood.  

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I know that some might immediately dismiss this as a ‘black movie’ or a ‘slave movie’ ie depressing downer but it’s a film about the human state of being.  About being a woman, about being black in a society where you are the minority (really the only one in Belle’s case) and someone who grows into a woman who decides to follow her own path.  I know it’s a period drama with corsets, men in short pants and the live of the gentry (titled rich) but it’s so much more directed by a woman who made the subject so relatable to us trying to live a life true to our own moral compass.

This film is inspired by the true story of Dido Elizabeth Belle, the illegitimate mixed race daughter of Admiral Sir John Lindsay. Raised by her aristocratic great-uncle Lord Mansfield and his wife, Belle’s lineage affords her certain privileges, yet her status prevents her from the traditions of noble social standing. While her cousin Elizabeth chases suitors for marriage, Belle is left on the sidelines wondering if she will ever find love. After meeting an idealistic young vicar’s son bent on changing society, he and Belle help shape Lord Mansfield’s role as Lord Chief Justice to end slavery in England.

Director: Amma Asante – Cast: Gubu Mbatha-Raw, Tom Wilkinson, Emily Watson, Sarah Gadon,Penelope Wilton
‎1hr 45min‎‎ – Rated PG‎‎ – Drama‎

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January 23rd, 2014 by Cherry

Well I’m thinking it’s going to be all right since who doesn’t love to laugh???  Sign me up!  I’m very intrigued with this show.  I’m hoping they’ll pay homage to my old school Doctor’s that I grew up watching!  Hmm what would I suggest?  Well you know I need some K9, the Master (best Who Villain EVER),  Martha (favorite new companion who I MISSED in the 50th anniversary special .. urgh Rose HATE HER!!) and their trapped in a box!  Wait isn’t that an episode already from Moffit??? What would you suggest for the show?  Do you want to join me in Hollywood for a fun night out of humor and geekiness?  Perfect idea for a date .. hint hint!!!

Doctor Who Live!

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The cast of Doctor Who Live will take a suggestion from the audience and use it as inspiration to create a fully improvised episode of Doctor Who – never before seen on TV or stage and never to be seen again!

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Twitter: @DoctorWhoLiveLA

“It’s great, you can get drinks and laughs for good prices, and they have nerdy and non-nerdy shows alike.” –comicattack.net

Article review from Comic Attack

Starring: Peter FluetChris McGowanGian MolinaMarkeia McCartyFrank MoranChris ThompsonDaniel WeissAndrew PishAndrew WollmanAlexis NotabartoloJen Krueger

Tickets can be purchased for performance(s) by clicking on the appropriate show date below Upcoming shows:
Saturday, January 25 @ 10:30 PM in the Main Stage – tickets are $5 (FREE for iO students)

For tickets, call (323) 962-7560 or find this show on the iO West page atTicketweb

 

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April 15th, 2013 by Cherry

So my boyfriend (tee hee the newness hasn’t worn off) likes to go hiking and when your in a relationship you have to compromise. When I say compromise I mean the give and take you have you in a relationship (friendship, dating, family, work, etc.,). So I went hiking in Runyon Canyon and it was tough since I’m a gym rat kind of woman ala not an outdoors sort of person.

But he really enjoys being outside so I’ve been sunscreening and wearing comfy shoes. We usually just go for a long walk in Santa Monica for an hour but today he wanted to go hiking. So up the winding hill of Runyon we went. I won’t lie it was a tough walk but bearable since it was cool and the air was fresh with a breeze. I worked up a sweat just walking up the hill but Yakob wanted something a bit tougher so wanted to go down the side that is quite stiff. At first I said no since it looked scary as hell and I have a bit of a phobia with heights and falling (they go hand in hand). But Yakob said he’d guide me down and I could lean on him. At first it was scary but bearable and was feeling pretty good that I was facing my fears head on so to speak.

I even got so confident that I had Yakob take a photo of me looking tough but than I saw the scary drop and well I freaked out. I told him that I couldn’t go any further. I got so upset that I burst into tears from just the thought of going down the hill and fall down. Once he realized that I was super scared we walked back up the hill. But i feel bad that I wasn’t able to face my fear and walk down the hill. I got down farther than I thought since I was ready to quit a few times but with Yakob’s urging I went further than I would have ever done so good for me. But I really want to try to face fears and not allow my own weakness to keep me from moving forward. I’m sure you wouldn’t make the connection but for me you it’s the same fear that has kept me fat (food as comfort), fear of dating (don’t want to get hurt) and and thinking I deserve to be treated as well as I treat others.

I’ve been working the past two years on liking myself enough to hold myself in value and to not allow the little voice in my head that always says ‘I can’t do that’ and ‘Nobody wants to date a woman that looks like me (fat, plain). But I am working on being the person I want and have cut out those who put doubts in my confidence. Hmmm I suppose this seems as if I’m sad but I’m really not. I see nothing wrong with failing since the only things I regret are not trying.

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December 1st, 2012 by Cherry

It’s the holiday season so am happy that today’s Barnes and Noble Free Friday ebook is The Last Noel by Michael Malone.  It sounds like a great book to read about friendship, love and the south at a crossroads towards equality.  I look forward to reading this book and thinking about our world today.

 

Free Fridays: The Last Noel by Michael Malone

by JeremyCesarec 12 hours ago
Categories: Free Fridays

 

“Malone writes with such quiet authority and clear understanding of the world his characters inhabit that the story strikes deep emotional chords.” – Washington Post Book World

Readers loved our previous Michael Malone Free Friday’s selection, The Four Corners of the Sky. So I’m incredibly excited to announce that today’s Free Fridays selection is Malone’s touching Christmas tale, The Last Noel.

Now that Thanksgiving is in the rearview mirror, it’s time to turn our thoughts towards celebrating the spirit of Christmas. Malone’s book begins on Christmas Day, 1956, as two babies—one white and one black—are born in a small Southern town. Those babies, Noni and Kaye, cross paths eight years later, and form a lifelong friendship and romance. Through this unlikely pairing, Malone explores a changing American South, but more importantly, presents a deep love that transcends all barriers and survives against all odds.

 


 

Free Fridays Recommends

 Each week, we ask our featured author to recommend a book or author that you may want to check out. Since authors are such passionate readers themselves, we thought you might like to find out what they love to read, too! Here’s what Michael recommends:

Ciji Ware makes fascinating cities central characters in her fiction. In Midnight on Julia Street she invites us to come with her to New Orleans, a city whose famous charms, grit, sexiness and past-haunted social world Ware knows with affectionate particularity–from its old houses and high society to its new money and nouvelle cuisine.

The Big Easy feels like the perfect place for a time-slip novel (they do it all the time there). The 19th-century mystery blends easily with the modern romance. Best of all, like the land of dreamy dreams itself, Ware’s heroine, reporter Corlis McCullough, is smart, eccentric, seductive, wry and resilient. Also like New Orleans–she is practically irresistible.

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August 9th, 2012 by Cherry

Hmmm like a lot of people I’m looking for love.  I’m pretty flexible on my physical type but am very firm on education, temperament, sense of ‘adventure’, ability to have fun and well having a personality!  As I’ve dated all through my 20s, 30s and am now in the dreaded 40s .. duh duh duh (sound of heavy piano playing) I’ve found that well the men are at extremes.  I live in LA so of course a huge segment of the population believes that they should be dating super models young enough to be their daughters .. well let’s be honest their GRANDDAUGHTERS which is their business I really don’t care since I’m just looking for a good man that is the lid to my teapot.  But DAMN it’s hard to meet a man my age that hasn’t been beaten down by life, is very casual about his being a functional alcoholic, is all about some sort of drug (viagra to ‘snow’ to pot it seems to take over some men’s lives) and of course the Peter Pans who refuse to grow up.

I usually avoid men like that but at times they mask their natures which is why I get to know someone before giving out my personal info it makes it that much easier to cut them loose when they go crazy.  Like an older man I went on ONE date who demanded that I keep in contact with him, refused to believe that I didn’t want to go out with him again and tried to ‘guilt’ me into a second date.  No means no means stop calling me!  It’s why I’m totally psyched about this new Burner app so that you can give out a temp number to people before giving them all your contact info so that it’s a little harder to google stalk me!

I really believe that my expectations in a man are reasonable.  I want someone in their late 30s to early 50s, professional/college education, intellectually curious, attractive, non smoker, nice, a bit of a geek/sci fi fan and who will like me ‘just as I am’.  Obviously I LOVE Bridget Jones Diary in case you missed the reference.  I’m just looking for someone like ‘you’ who is my match, compliments my personality, gets my weird humor, loves geeky life as much as me and at times it’s frustrating that I haven’t met him.  I had HIGH hopes this year for San Diego Comic Con but I worked it so didn’t get a chance to meet anyone other than actors so … hmm that didn’t happen!  tee hee but the eye candy was quite intoxicating!

Now I’m not giving up on finding my man since I have been working on becoming the woman to attract him with eating healthy, getting in shape, having my heart open to love/possibility of romance, making it my year of ‘yes’ and generally working on me.   So now all I have to do is find a man who appreciates ‘all this’ and lives in LA.  Well lives somewhere on earth maybe my perfect man my type my Prince Charming lives in a different city, state or heck even country.  I might have to take this love journey on the road if he doesn’t turn up soon!

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November 18th, 2011 by Cherry
Something New / Simon Baker

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Cover of Something New (Widescreen Edition)

I’m NOT looking for love in all the wrong places (Video on YouTube) instead I’m meeting men in the RIGHT places!

If your new to my dating advice than you may not know that meeting someone isn’t about your ‘tricking’ them, pretending to be someone your not and twisting yourself in knots to be the fake love of their ‘dreams’.  Meeting the RIGHT person is about shared interests, passions, humor and just liking them as a person.  I am also all about dating a man of ANY race who loves a black woman (me!) so want to remind all of the women out in blog land don’t limit yourself to any race or if they are tall and handsome.  Find a GOOD man and go where they hang out!

So hightailed it to the 2011 Los Angeles Auto Show and made a new entry to my video dating blog.  NOT just because I like men and men LOVE cars but because I LOVE LOVE LOVE cars!!!  Am a total muscle car geekette and have gone to auto shows in every city where I live.  But am now going with TWO agendas.  Number one is to look ooh and ahh over the cars and the Second reason is to meet/flirt with men.  So if your like me (Single and in LA) check out the auto show.  You’ll be surprised at how much fun it is and how many men are attending the show.  Who knows maybe your eyes will meet over the hood of a Chevy or a BMW or Kia .. who knows!  Just go and have a open heart to meeting someone.

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November 6th, 2011 by Cherry

Well I wanted to post another dating advice video blog about meeting someone offline.  We’ve all done the online ad thing but I’m currently single and looking to date.  I’m looking at meeting a man using my dating service techniques to show that it does work and that everyone should join my matchmaking service .. hint hint!

So as I truly believe in love.  I’m a complete romantic that thinks everyone can have that spark with their special someone.  I think the spark can be physical, mental or just because they are the ‘one’ and the chemistry is off the charts.  Most people are so caught up in their type that they will walk right past the perfect person for them just because they may not be the perfect height, physical attributes or hair color.  That’s the worst thing about dating sites you have a tendancy to look at your mate the same way you shop for a new dress.  You know what syle, color, material and length and won’t look at anything outside of the picture of your mind.  But sometimes the perfect dress isn’t what you pictured but is the one that fits so well it could have been designed for you.

So make sure when your looking for a great person just try to open your mind and expand your ‘type’.  You might be surprised to find the perfect person for you looks nothing like your dream!

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