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Common sense rules on dating

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I’m a HUGE romantic and have always looked for the good in people but that doesn’t make me a fool.  Not that I haven’t done fooling things or been tricked but I learn from my mistakes so usually don’t make the same on twice.  I like to make NEW dating mistakes!

So over the course of the weekend I’ve had two guys contact me online.  One on google+ and the other Facebook and both of them had my spidey senses tingling.  Both of them said they found me online but wouldn’t say how or where.  One insinuated we met in person and when I called him on it than said he was attracted to my photo with my twinkling eyes (well I do have great eyes but that’s irrelevant).  The other guy has NO info on his FB profile other than a photo of a dog (it is cute but …) and than him but no comments, no friends or comments about ‘him’.  All of which made me think it’s a fake profile where he’s either married/living with someone or a scam artist looking for stupid women.

I’m a lot of things but stupid isn’t one of them.  I know that I ‘live’online more so than most people my age and so don’t expect everyone to post all their info up like I do (but of course I don’t have anything to hide).  But for you to have nothing up means that your either in Witness Protection (highly unlikely) or your just up to trouble.

So my advice for those you are less aware of tricks are pretty simple:

  1. Google search the name/email/phone number
  2. When someone within 3 messages asks to exchange numbers it’s not flattering but sketchy
  3. Facebook profiles tell a lot about someone not just their interests, marital status, drinking/drug habits but also their personality and life philosophy
  4. If they the person sending you a message can’t say how they found you they are trolling for victims or sex partners (random hookups)
  5. If they are unable to communicate in English or the language they are contacting you in but trying to behave as if they live in the area/country you live in they are scamming you
  6. If they say they live in your region/country but are working in Africa or Eastern Europe or some other exotic locale that’s just weird why wouldn’t they find a local person to chat with …???  It’s because they are being sneaky and looking for a victim.
  7. If they give you some hard luck story about how they are a widower, have a child but he/she is living with family out of state or have a import/export business be prepared because eventually they are going to hit you up for money.

I think lots of men in other regions of the world think of women as being fools and that we are piggy banks that they can smash to get our cash.  My motto is that I’m not a bank and I don’t loan out money.  Don’t ask me for nothing because I won’t give you any money AND I won’t ask you for any either (I’m a woman like that self sufficient and independent).

It may sound a bit harsh or even cynical but it’s not it’s common sense that a lot of men and women seem to have put on the wayside when they are looking to meet someone online.  I expect the same qualities from someone I meet ‘offline’ as ‘online’ and if you don’t fit my criteria than move onto the next man.

I’m very upfront that it’s the ‘Year of Yes’ where I’m dating and looking for the ‘one’ not the ‘good enough’ or ‘someone to settle with’ NO I want the ONE.  The man who compliments and enriches my life.  Someone who is dependable, loving, kind, smart and of course a complete geek! I was disappointed to have not met him at San Diego Comic Con but their are other conventions coming up so I’ll be looking their as well as online!  Feel free to comment or drop me a note if you want some free advice!

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Cherry
Cherryhttps://www.cherrydavis.org
I live in Los Angeles and am a professional in the new media communication and marketing field with experience in non-profit, education, healthcare, political campaign and volunteer management. I’m a trustworthy honest creative professional that is able to offer strategic counseling on marketing & communications using social media. In my spare time I enjoy cultural events, going to the movies, being a foodie, getting in shape and dating.

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